Content of the material
- I’ll stop there
- 5. Talking About Taboo Subjects
- 6. Being Undermined By The Office Bully
- Why Some People Are More Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
- Difficult Office Situations and How to Deal With Them:
- 3. Feeling Like You Dont Know What Youre Doing
- Uncomfortable Situation #4: Getting bullied
- 2. Helping Someone Through Their Illness or Grief
- Uncomfortable Situation #2: Undesirable encounters
- A Word From Verywell
I’ll stop there
… but this is really just the beginning. Who knew there were so many uncomfortable things in the world? (Michael Cera. Michael Cera probably knew.)
From negotiating salary to reading “some good, heavy, serious books” as Du Bois suggests, this list could go on and on. Hopefully it will, in the comments below.
What uncomfortable moment have you conquered as a professional? Which are you still working on that you’d add to this list? Share with us in the comments.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in March 2016 and has been updated for freshness and comprehensiveness.
5. Talking About Taboo Subjects
Speaking of uncomfortable subjects, adults are notoriously uncomfortable talking with each other about all sorts of topics — money, religion, and politics in particular. Most of us avoid these subjects when visiting the in-laws, but sometimes it’s necessary or at least helpful to have these conversations. There’s a lot we can learn from other religions and perspectives on all topics. The key is to stick to the facts and try to find common ground when discussing controversial subjects.
6. Being Undermined By The Office Bully
Unfortunately, you don’t always leave bullies behind after school. Some of them end up working in offices. Whether you’re consistently being humiliated in front of others, or having rumors about you spread behind your back, having to deal with a bully at work takes an emotional toll, and can drive you to quit even when you’re otherwise enjoying your work.
Lynne Curry, HR expert and author of Beating The Workplace Bully: A Tactical Guide To Taking Charge told Gwen Moran that the best time to stop bullying is “as soon as you start to see it happening.” Train yourself to stay calm and remain unnerved, and document, in detail, the circumstances of their bullying behaviors. Curry said that at times, you might be able to stop bullies by calling their bluff. For example, if they criticize your work, you can ask “what would you have done differently?” Curry said.
Of course, this approach doesn’t always work. So the best bet would be to find someone within the organization who can fight and “intervene on your behalf,” Curry suggested. This might be HR, or someone else with the power to keep the bully accountable for their actions.
Why Some People Are More Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
Some people are naturally more comfortable trying new things in life; this is the opposite of what is known as behavioral inhibition. However, some people are more comfortable being uncomfortable simply because they have chosen to constantly stretch their limits.
These people are already in the habit of pushing themselves to their limits so they know what it is like to be outside of their comfort zone. These same individuals have an increased tolerance for discomfort because they have become desensitized over time. Constantly facing new difficult situations and learning from them has left them stronger than they were before.
At first, it will be hard to feel comfortable experiencing new situations, but as you gain experience and learn from your mistakes it will become easier.
Difficult Office Situations and How to Deal With Them:
Great work environment is one of the most important factors for generating better productivity from the employees. Good work culture in the organization for employees helps them being comfortable and work better.
Though employers are focusing on providing very comfortable work conditions for their employees but there comes a few instances where the office situations become very difficult to deal with. In such situation you should calm your mind and understand the situation properly. This would help you develop the best solution for handling the problem.
Here are a few tough work situations and ways to deal with them.
- Tough work and need some space
How to handle: Complaint constructively
2. Not happy with the senior and want to complain to the higher authorities
How to handle: Meet your immediate supervisor and detail him with the matter. Even if unsolved then you can move to authorities in charge
3. You being right but you co-worker arguing about it
How to handle: Take it easily and apologize just to avoid any workplace tension
4. An important event in personal life
How to handle: Discuss less of your personal things
5. Working with people who have a problem with each other
How to handle: Behave professionally and plan it out
6. Given extra workload by your boss
How to handle: It is OK to say NO sometimes
7. Getting involved in a romantic relationship at work
How to handle: Don’t let it affect your work in a negative way
8. Passed out a secret of others to one of your friends
How to handle: Not an ethical way to behave
9. Taking a break and surfing the net
How to handle: Surfing net during breaks is fine but make sure that your personal surfing is lesser
10. Want to enjoy the company Christmas party
How to handle: Control yourself especially while drinking
11. Food being stolen from the refrigerator
How to handle: Stick your name tag to your box, or purchase a small personal fridge
12. Getting you involved in office gossips
How to handle: Staying away is the best choice
13. Any type of inappropriate physical advance.
How to handle: Never encourage any such and inform the authorities
14.Getting in heated conversation related to religion or politics
How to handle: Keeping a distance with such topics would be wise
15. Your co-workers working against you
How to handle: Competition at work is common so the right way to deal is to be your best at work
16. Your co worker’s annoying habit
How to handle: Talk to them directly but in a polite manner
3. Feeling Like You Dont Know What Youre Doing
In the perfect world, you’ll get comprehensive training before you start an assignment. But the working world can be a little messy, and vague instructions are part of the course from time to time.
Uncomfortable Situation #4: Getting bullied
A group of friends take part in bullying you for something that happened in past. You can’t overwrite the history. Don’t try to explain or justify. Excuses will worsen the game and fuel them further.
Start laughing aloud at every dig they take, louder than the loudest in the gang and add new angles to make fun of yourself mercilessly. Make even the shrewdest blush. They’ll see no value in continuing on that track and probably find a new victim or subject for killing the remaining time.
See Also: How to Deal with a Workplace Bully
2. Helping Someone Through Their Illness or Grief
When someone you know or love is in pain, it’s hard to find the right words that might actually be helpful, whether they’re dealing with the loss of a loved one, an illness like depression, or another health issue. The Ring Theory is a good guide for knowing how to comfort someone.
Uncomfortable Situation #2: Undesirable encounters
Someone really unpleasant and unimportant is approaching you at a breakneck speed possibly to ask for some help. Pick up your mobile and answer a non-existent call while you stride away of the hell. People are expected to be unmindful during an important phone call; more so if you keep your eyebrows strained. So you’re pardoned for unnoticing the ‘friend’. It doesn’t really matter whether the call landed on you or you made because you look reasonably absorbed.
A Word From Verywell
While it’s important to push outside your comfort zone, if you are feeling extremely uncomfortable or afraid, it might be best to back off for a little while. For some people, anxiety can be debilitating. If you experience severe anxiety or fear, this could be a sign of an anxiety disorder, which requires professional treatment. See your healthcare provider if you are concerned that your fear or anxiety is more than you can handle.