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Anal Pleasures For Men

Is Anal Sex Pleasurable For Men?

Many men report that prostate stimulation can be a wonderful enhancer of their sexual pleasure, especially when they are approaching orgasm and during ejaculation. But what exactly is the prostate? The prostate is a gland that is located below the bladder, above the penis, and in front of the rectum. In a healthy adult male, the prostate is about the size of a walnut, but it does grow bigger with age. The urethra runs through the prostate from the bladder to the penis. Approximately 30% of ejaculatory fluid comes from the prostate.

The prostate can be felt through digital palpation – by reaching with a finger up a man’s anus. Only about a third of the prostate can actually be stimulated with a finger due to its location in the body. Those who have felt a man’s prostate say it feels like the tip of a person’s nose. It can also feel like the padded part of the thumb where it meets the wrist. By feeling around a man’s prostate, you will also discover an indentation that runs down the center of it.

While stimulating a man’s prostate can be a pleasurable experience, having an orgasm solely from prostate touch is rare. Giving a man’s penis some attention at the same time will enhance the whole experience. Just before and during orgasm, the man’s prostate will feel like it is swelling. For some men, this is a great time to either press down on his prostate or to rub your finger around it. [Read up on our Top 4 Orgasm Techniques for Men.]

Rule 4: Lube is Your Best Bud

When it comes to anal play, the more slippery, the better. This is not to say that there aren’t ways to enjoy anal pleasure without lube. Light exterior caresses and rimming do not require lube. However, if anything—finger or sex toy—is headed past the anus, get that bottle of lube warmed up and ready! The anus, sphincters and anal cavity are strong but tender bits of our anatomy. They really put up with a lot of shit, but they are not fond of the rough stuff. Unlubricated anal penetration can result in anal fissures—small cuts and tears. Applying liberal amounts of lube and patience in play can avoid these.

Each has advantages and disadvantages for butt fun.

Water-based lube: These lubes clean up easier and as the most compatible with silicone sex toys. However, they do not last long, can become sticky feeling during prolonged use and will need reapplication (or water added) to ensure they maintain the need viscosity for anal penetration. LELO offers two options for toy-safe water-based lube: F1L and LELO Personal Moisturizer.

Silicone lube: Silicone lube lasts much longer than water-based lube. You can go and go! But you have to be careful what you go and go with. Silicone sex toys cannot be used with silicone lube as it degrades the material of the sex toy. Also, it is a bit harder to clean up after and can contain more ingredients that doesn’t agree with all bodies.

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Preparing to Stimulate the Prostate

In order to warm up their partner, many people choose to use anal massage or rimming. Rimming is when a partner licks around the anus. Both of these practices get the very sensitive nerve endings around the anus fired up (in a good way). They also help to facilitate the relaxing of the anus to make it more receptive. It is a good idea to use lube while doing anal massage. During the massage, focus on the outside and not on penetrating your partner yet. The thumbs are often the best part of the hand to use for this specific task.

Before trying to penetrate the anus, it is important to understand how it works. The rectum is guarded by two anal sphincters. They are rings of muscles, designed to help feces move out of the body and less so to help objects move into it. However, that does not mean they cannot be taught to open up and allow things in!

One of the sphincters is under conscious control – it’s the one we use to hold poop in when we really have to go. The second sphincter is under the control of our autonomic nervous system – meaning that we don’t have conscious control over it. And yet, it is possible to train this second sphincter to relax and open up when faced with an outside object.

How To Prepare For Anal Pleasures?

As I pointed out earlier, preparation goes a long way in enjoying anal sex for men.It is important in getting you into the groove…

Check out some of the preparation tips below:

1. Use When Horny To Get Most Out

As I said, preparing your body for anal stimulation is vital. And one of the best ways to do this is by arousing your pleasure senses. 

Just to hint a few methods… You may have foreplay with your partner or listen to some audio porn if alone.

When you’re horny enough, your body eases and surrenders to whatever pleasure you’ll indulge it in. And this is where you want to get yourself if you’re just beginning this journey of anal sex/stimulation.

2. Prepare The Space

This means getting rid of any distractions that may interrupt your session. This could involve things like phone calls or work-related engagements. 

More so if you’re going solo, you’ll need to secure about 2 hours of uninterrupted time. Prostate stimulation is a journey that will have little stopovers as you continue discovering yourself.

Other than that, get some clean towels and spread them over your play spot. And don’t forget to bring a generous supply of lube with you.

If you’re planning to have long sessions (solo/with a partner), then I’d recommend oil-based lubes. They last longer when applied and might cut your refilling expenses.

3. Clean Your Rectum

When it comes to anal sex… hygiene is so much sexy.

It’s always a good idea to clean your tank before filling it up again afterwards. And for this purpose, there are handy tools like the anal douche that could help get you ready.

Just fill it up with room-temperature water and squirt it inside your rectum then press it out immediately. Do this a couple of times and you’ll be good to go. 

4. Weed Helps To Speed Up The Experience And Relax

This is the silver bullet… 

If you’re okay, you can use a little weed when all else has failed to relax your mind. 

This works better for other guys as it helps them kill tension and enhance their pleasure sensitivity levels.

Rule 5: Continue Exploring With Sex Toys

Without a doubt, one of the best, most fulfilling aspects of anal sex for a straight man is opportunity to explore new and exciting sexual opportunities to feel great and orgasm. Seriously, adding anal pleasure is going to ratchet up coming by countless degrees of pleasure.

Prostate pleasure: Get ready for the ride of your life! The prostate is the hidden jewel of ass sex that will take you to new heights of pleasure. Tucked up on the anterior wall of the anal cavity, the prostate is a walnut-sized gland that, when stroked, produces amazing sensations. It can be reached with a sex toy, such as the Lelo Loki Wave Prostate Massager or a finger, either on your own or by a partner. Prostate massage can also have help benefits, as studies show it increases semen production and might help prevent cancer.

Butt plugs: When straight fellows open their minds to opening their asses, they open themselves to a wide range of dual stimulation. Butt plugs are a fantastic way to increase your body’s pleasure potential by enjoy manual, oral or penetrative sex—while at the same time feeling those sweet butt sex sensations! Butt plugs are designed to be hands-free. They go in and they stay in place until you take them out. They come in different sizes and shapes and can also included vibration. These toys, such as the Lelo Hugo anal vibrator, are extra sensual, as they allow your partner to control the action.