19 Texting Rules for Guys to Make Her Interested in You

Improve Your Relationship By Following These Rules For Texting Guys

Today texting is a global phenomenon. A fantastic form of communication that can be used to enhance your relationships. However, before you get text happy….check out these hints on how to stop yourself from going overboard.

1. For Guys, Less is More

Open communication is a sign of a healthy relationship, but when it comes to texting, is it possible for a woman to over-communicate and be guilty of texting a guy too much?

Before we take a closer look at this question, it’s important to point out that most guys love receiving texts from their partner, particularly texts conveying the message “I’m thinking of you” (hopefully in more ways than one).

Picture this: Your guy is waiting in line for his morning coffee, and suddenly his cell phone flashes a message from you that says, “Can’t wait until tonight,” or the all-time favorite, “Guess what I’m wearing ;)”. A fun, flirty message from you will be sure to perk him up more than his coffee ever could. In fact, he’ll probably mentally thank the guy who invented texting right then and there.

But there’s a big difference between one text saying “Can’t wait until tonight” and 50 texts demanding “What are you doing?”

Many times, guys view “What are you doing?” texts as nothing more than a chore to reply to, rather than their girlfriend or wife showing a healthy interest in them. Be creative with your texts, and always wait for a response before sending another message.

2. Mundane Texts

If you text him: “I just ate a hamburger and I am SOOOOO full!!”, it probably isn’t going to score you many romance points. There’s no need to send him an update about every little thing you do. Think of each text message as something that requires precision, like applying makeup. Just as you probably wouldn’t put your eyeliner on in a dark closet, don’t send your man just old thing that comes to mind. Plan and execute each message artfully – and don’t forget the “text mascara,” – a good dose of your personality!

3. Minor Work Issues

The same goes for professional issues such as, “Lisa called in sick and now I have to make coffee!” Put yourself in his place; how would you respond if you received a message like that? There’s not much to work with.

4. Frustration Texts

This type of text is when you tell your guy something he really can’t do anything about, such as, “Lost a quarter in the dryer downstairs this morning.” Try to limit these.

So, next time you find yourself faced with one of these three types of messages, press Delete instead of Send. Avoiding these text bombs will almost guarantee that your partner will continue to smile, instead of groan, when he sees your name pop up on his list of incoming messages.

It will also prevent you from being “black listed,” meaning, triggering a subconscious (or conscious) reaction in his brain that tells him that your messages aren’t important or interesting enough to read right away. Your texts should make his heart race, not make him yawn!

5. Forgetting To Respect The Time & Place

Communication is a very important element in a relationship. Sharing not only your problems, but also your personal thoughts with your partner creates intimacy, and a sense of connection. However, keep in mind that for most deep conversations, texting is not the appropriate medium. If you have a major decision coming up, and would like your special someone’s opinion, then instead of texting him: “I was just offered a 6 month position in Japan, what do you think?”, plan a quiet moment where you can sit down together and discuss the situation in detail.

6. Remote Nagging

The issue of texting a guy too much becomes even more critical when you live together, or you see each other a lot. You might think nothing of sending multiple texts to your partner throughout the day, but he may feel it’s unnecessary, as you’re going to be together later in the day anyway.

This perceived difference in the quantity of communication can cause problems, and he might start thinking of your text messages as nagging. Try to “feel out” his comfort level, and respect it. If he starts responding with one-word texts, or stops responding altogether, it’s probably a sign that you need to cool it, or change the type of messages you’re sending.

7. Keeping It Special

Perhaps the best way to avoid texting a guy too much is to view texting as a special tool in the relationship, and not the entire relationship itself. Use it wisely for sending these “relationship friendly” types of messages:

A. Vital information

What time you plan on meeting at the movie theater, if you’re running late, etc. These texts are definitely useful; still, it’s always a good idea to make sure that even these functional texts don’t become too dry. A text message sent without a small dose of your personality is a wasted opportunity.

For example, instead of writing, “Be home at 7pm tonight” you could write, “Leaving work early to buy you an enormous Kegerator for our basement, hope you don’t mind :-).” The first message gets your point across, but it won’t stick in his mind and make him think of you the way the second message would.

B. Flirty messages

You can use texts to create desire and re-ignite the spark in your relationship. When sending flirty messages, be specific. Let him know that his smile melts your heart, or his strong arms make you feel safe and “frisky.” For example “You looked hot this morning. I love the way your blue shirt brings out the color of your eyes.”

His face will light up, and you will be on his mind for a lot longer than it took him to read your text. Try it, and see for yourself. He will appreciate a flirty message from you much more than “My dog just did the funniest thing” with a photo of your pet Muffy’s head stuck in a cereal box. Save Muffy for your best friend.

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Flirty Text Messages That Hell Simply Love

So, what to text a guy to get his attention and flThe thing is that if you want to grab his attention, you must show interest too. However, you must be careful about it because you don’t want to look desperate.

So, what to text a guy to get his attention and flirt with him in a not-so-obvious way? Here are some cute, flirty texts that will make him fall head over heels for you.

1. So, I heard that a kiss can burn 6.4 calories per minute. You wanna work out?

2. If you are having a bad day then don’t worry because your night will be awesome!

3. On the agenda for tonight: polite conversation followed immediately by impolite bedroom antics.

4. I promise to be by your side always, preferably under you or on top.

5. Hope you’re rested, cause you’re gonna need every ounce of energy you can find tonight.

6. What are you doing for dinner tonight? I thought about getting reservations for my bedroom but I wanted to make sure you were available.

7. I just put on some really crazy underwear. So many snaps! So many straps! You’ll have to help me take it off.

8. Can I have you for breakfast in bed today?

9. I’ve got something to show you. It’s a surprise and you’re going to have to undress me to find it.

10. I am not a photographer but I can still picture you and me together… in my bed.12. What do you want as a present? Today I am your11. Let’s do some ‘we shouldn’t be doing this’ things.

12. What do you want as a present? Today I am your Santa and I will fulfill all your dreams!

13. I hope your day is as nice as my butt.

14. I can’t decide if the best part of my day is waking up next to you or going to sleep with you. Hurry home so I can compare the two again.

15. You make me smile and also super horny but that’s not the point.

16. See, I don’t like this, you’re too far away. If I could, I would be in your arms right now.

17. It’s impossible to get any work done today because I can’t stop thinking about you.

18. Hello there! Just thought that 3 p.m. was the best time to tell you how cute you are!

19. I want to tell you what’s on my mind, but I can’t be fully exposed yet. When I’m comfortable, you will see a completely different person.

20. Good morning baby. Just wanted to say I hope your day is amazing – but not as amazing as tonight is going to be.

#14 There’s a place for sarcasm

Speaking of ruining a good mood…

Ever had a good conversation when suddenly you crack a joke and…

…the other person doesn’t laugh. Because they don’t get it.

You’re now in a horrible spot. You have two options:

  1. You ignore that it happened and let your high IQ joke go unnoticed (this option pains your ego)
  2. You explain your joke. But…

Explaining a joke is like dissecting a frog. You understand it better but the frog dies in the process.

― E.B. White

21. Dont Hide Behind Your Phone

Texting is a fantastic platform for touching base with your love interest. But the reality is, it’s not the best for creating the type of deep emotional connection that leads to long-term commitment.

In the early dating stages, it’s important to make sure that you are connecting in other ways too. Such as, speaking on the phone and of course best of all, going on real dates.

Texting Example – How To Get Him To Call You:

“What a great question! You, know, I can talk faster than I can type. Wanna continue this conversation on the phone?…:)”

4. Dont text a novel

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This is one that I personally break all the time, but it just makes sense: if it’s taking you more than thirty seconds to text it, you probably just want to take care of it over the phone. Don’t make it more confusing than it has to be.

12. Don’t Be A Complainer

Everyone needs a safe space to vent. Sometimes you just want to dump out our whole day on someone that you’re comfortable with. While doing that may feel like a relief at the time. In the long run, endless complaining can be highly detrimental to any relationship.

It’s also been shown that positive text messages have a positive effect on overall relationship satisfaction (2). Of course everyone has a bad day now and then.

You don’t want to be artificially positive when your day is falling apart. But at the same time, it doesn’t mean that it’s wise to send your new man a long list of how bad things are for you either.

Yes, you can still tell him about the rough day you had. But it will be much easier for him to be there for you, if you save the details to share with him in person.

14. Focus On The Bright Side Of Things

Negativity is contagious and can spread quickly; refuse to be that person who transmits negativity through your family, friends, and coworkers by complaining all the time. Instead, be that person who can look at the bright side of a difficult situation and keep tough times in perspective. This doesn’t mean to be unrealistic and overly-positive, it means to be that person who can look adversity in the face and focus on what you can control.

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#3 Share your POV

In this tip, I’ll give you one texting rule to transform your texts from needy to interesting by changing just one thing.

How you can stand out from the swarms of peasants

How you can stand out from the swarms of peasants sliding in her DM with the “wyd?”.

We just said that these guys are only asking for energy, without offering any.

That’s the core of what they’re doing:

Asking for investment, without offering investment.

The opposite of fair trade.

Resulting in you looking boring, lazy, and unattractive.

So, what’s the texting rule to easily stray away from this?

By investing in her first, before asking for any investment.

AKA by not sending her a question, but dumping something in her inbox that has a bit more value.

Like a random photo from your POV (point of view), or something funny you stumbled across.

Holy Tip:

This investment you make in her doesn’t have to be anything super amazing. If you like it, it’s worth sharing.

One thing that 100% of the time works 69% of the time… are puppies or cats. Depending on if she’s more into cats or doogers.

I know this lovely lady is one sucker for puppies. So whenever I come across a tiny dog, I bless her with it. And every time she loves me for it.

Does it take me more effort to forward a meme or video than texting “wyd?”?

No. It doesn’t.

Does it have one gazillion times better results?

Yes. It does.

So, texting rules for guys numéro 3: Send her photos and videos instead of questions begging for investment. Share your POV.

Do guys care if you text them first?

Guys do not care. If you text them first, it actually relieves them, because even they understand the pressures of having to text the girl first. In the same way that guy can get annoying if he triple texts you the moment you walk out of the door, there is such a thing as taking it too far.

Dont overthink

Learning how to text guys can make it seem like there is a set of rules and regulations you have to follow or you’re doomed. This is just not true! All the how to text guys guidelines are just that, guidelines.

Worrying about if you’ve said the wrong thing or texted at the wrong time is just going to make you stressed and anxious.

Just relax, be yourself and the right guy will surely come along!

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Enjoy the text conversation

Something that I hear a lot with people who are dating is that they “don’t like texting.” They rather have an in-person conversation or a conversation on the phone.

It’s true that texting conversations aren’t the best. You can’t go into too much detail, you can’t hear the person’s voice to get their inntonations and sense of humour and a conversation that would normally take 5 minutes can end up taking the whole day.

I agree, it’s not fun – but you have to play the game in order to win.

I hate to break it you but cell phones are not going away.

Unless you want to literally be with the person for every moment of every day, you’re going to have to communicate through text.

Here are some positive things about texting:

  • You can establish a connection with little time commitment
  • You can be chatting with multiple guys at once and not feel too overwhelmed
  • It’s a way for him to tell you he’s thinking about you when he’s at work or with his friends
  • You can get to know each other a bit before meeting each other face to face

When you’re in the casual dating phase, before you are exlusive, things will take more effort. 

I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we never go out on dates. We are quite happy staying at home on the weekends to cook dinner and catch up on Netflix documentaries.

When we were dating casually, we were always arranging plans and going out of way to see each other. This meant, arranging picnics, dinners, going bowling, etc. It was a lot of effort!

Texting is going to be way more effort when you’re casually seeing someone, but don’t worry it dies down. What used to be day long text conversations about our childhood memories and favourite hobbies has now turned into “do we need milk?”

Bite the bullet for now, and it will be worth it in the end – trust me.

Dating Text Rules For Guys to Break: Dating Only Your Type

We always like to find a partner with similar likings and disliking. But it would help if you didn’t do that. It limits the possibility of getting a perfect partner. An ideal partner doesn’t always have to be exactly like you. You can try hanging out with people with different likings. This will expand your dating chances.

And will help you find the perfect partner for you. If you are too unsure about a person, then before committing, you can also try double texting. Talking to different people at the same time will help you discover what you like and what qualities do you want to have in your partner.

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And once you are sure about what you want, you can take the relationship ahead. And if your likings don’t match, you can always alternate between activities that each of you likes. Just because you don’t like something doesn’t mean that you will look down upon it. Always be very accepting towards your partner’s liking, and this will help you grow the relationship so much stronger.

8. When was the last time you “ghosted” a girl and why?

For questioning readers, I’ll save you the Google search: “Ghosting” is when someone you’re “dating” or “talking to” or “seeing” (#Dating in 2016 problems) ends the “relationship” by ending all communication without explanation or warning.

Interestingly, the 20 – 23 year olds weren’t as familiar with the term. David, however, appears well-versed in it. When asked when the last time he “ghosted” a girl was, he replied, “This week, I didn’t want to talk to her.” Fair enough.

However, sometimes ghosting is the simple solution to an online dating match gone bad. Ben, 27, last ghosted a girl after a first [Tinder] date. “She had a lot of baggage,” he explains, “and brought up that she recently broke up with a boyfriend she had been dating for several years… She was not ready to date – and that was what I was looking for.”

Nate last ghosted a girl last year: “She said she was a Cubs fan.”

Stop it with the hey texts

If you feel that you are the only one initiating a conversation and are fed up with it, try to cut short the conversation. You can end it with a hey or small question with a question mark. Try doing it for a few days and if there is no better response from her, then cut her down. Because clearly, she is not worth your time. You can instead find someone better and start a conversation with her. You can start with a simple hey as well if you aren’t very comfortable.

9. Is there a major event going on in their life?

    Reaching out to them to wish them luck on a big presentation they mentioned is a nice thing to do, and they’ll probably appreciate it. Even if you’ve only gone on a few dates, says Palmer, don’t hesitate to send them a quick note. It lets them know you’re thinking of them and keeps you fresh in their mind.

    11. Are they an ex?

    Well, that changes things.

    Being that you and this person are no longer together, texting is probably best reserved for moments when you need something specific and have a clear goal for reaching out to them, Palmer says.

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    Read This Before Getting Back Together With An Ex

    Even if you’re both still single and there’s no risk of upsetting their new partner or yours, take a moment, appreciate the song that reminded you of them for a minute, and move on without hitting them up about it.

    You broke up because you weren’t a good fit, so allow them the time they need to focus on their own life and develop new relationships. (And you do the same.) Plus, says Palmer, if you haven’t maintained a friendly relationship in the past, there’s a chance they’ll ignore your text, anyway.

    However, if the purpose of your text is specific, a.k.a. you need to talk to them about the dog you shared or you need the number for a plumber who once helped you in a jam, go ahead and text them. Just make it a direct message and resist including too many pleasantries.

    3. How often is too often for a girl to text “just to say hey”?

    According to Braden, 20, “more than once a day is too often,” while Cameron, 23, says texting “just to say hey” is “always fine.” Nate, 30, agrees that the text conversation should be “open-ended to keep the conversation flowing.”

    Ben, 27, wants a more creative conversation starter. “If you are actively pursuing someone, you better come up with something better than ‘hey’ or you will lose their interest,” he cautions. But don’t underestimate the guy’s ability to play hard to get: “However, if I know someone is interested in me, and maybe I’m playing hard to get, just saying ‘hey’ after a lull in conversation can let them know that I’m still interested, but still give me the control.”

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